Written by Malena Sanchez Moccero
Medically reviewed by Jazmin Galdino (Psychologist, Childhood Sleep Neuroscience and Perinatal Mental Health Specialist)
Art by Valentina Taraborelli
We all experience worry from time to time —it’s a natural part of life. However, experts have observed an alarming rise in anxiety among children in recent years. What are the signs that a child might be struggling with anxiety, and how can we support them through it?
Anxiety is a natural response to stress, and all children will feel anxious at some point. Whether before a test or in anticipation of a new experience, anxiety can manifest in many ways—through thoughts, emotions, and even physical sensations. For most children, this unease fades once the stressful event is over.
But what happens when that feeling persists? When anxiety becomes more persistent, it can overwhelm a child and affect their daily life, diminishing their sense of safety and control.
Anxiety is a natural response to stress, and all children will feel anxious at some point. But When anxiety becomes more persistent, it can overwhelm a child and affect their daily life.
A World of Growing Anxiety
Anxiety disorders are the most common psychiatric disorders in childhood. Experts say that children today face unprecedented levels of anxiety compared to previous generations. In a world dominated by screens, social media, and constant connectivity, hyperstimulation is always present. Studies show that technologies, particularly smartphones, can exacerbate anxiety, creating a cycle that’s hard to break. Additionally, the stress that adults around them may be suffering, societal pressures, busy schedules, and a lack of unstructured play contribute to high levels of anxiety. Today’s children are feeling the weight of the world like never before.
Top Signs of Anxiety in Children
While none of these signs definitively indicate that a child is struggling with anxiety, they are useful indicators for parents, teachers, or caregivers. Recognizing these behaviors early can help prevent more serious issues. You should always consult a professional healthcare provider for a formal diagnosis if you notice any of these.
1. Negative Emotions and Overreaction
Excessive worry about, for example, academic or athletic performance, social interactions, anxiety, and excessive concern about a wide range of events or activities, persisting for no less than six months.
2. Sleep Disturbances
Anxiety can disrupt sleep, causing fatigue, changes in sleep habits, or waking up during the night due to bad dreams. Restlessness and a persistent sense of tiredness are also common signs of anxiety.
3. Difficulty Concentrating
Children with anxiety may struggle to focus, pay attention, or sit still. This lack of concentration can be particularly noticeable in school or during activities that require sustained attention.
4. Lack of Confidence
Anxious children often seek constant reassurance from parents or caregivers. They may resist separating from them, fearing unfamiliar situations.
5. Physical Symptoms
Physical manifestations, when accompanied by a distress crisis, can include stomachaches, headaches, rapid heart rate, shallow breathing, trembling, dizziness, nausea, and even chest pain. These symptoms may occur without an apparent physical cause.
6. Clinginess
Particularly younger children with anxiety may exhibit clingy behavior, refusing to leave their parent or caregiver’s side and showing distress when separated.
7. Avoidance of Certain Places or Activities
Children experiencing anxiety may try to avoid school, social events, or other activities that trigger discomfort. They may also prefer staying indoors rather than going outside, as they feel safer in familiar settings.
Children today face unprecedented levels of anxiety compared to previous generations. In a world dominated by screens, social media, and constant connectivity, hyperstimulation is always present.
Effective Ways To Help Your Child Manage Anxiety
If your child is struggling with anxiety, there’s plenty you can do to help. Taking proactive steps and seeking professional guidance can make a significant difference for both you and your child. Here are six practical ways to help:
1. Identify Triggers
The first step is to understand what causes your child’s anxiety. Triggers may include, for example, situations such as bullying, family changes (a divorce, for example), or the loss of a loved one. Once you have identified those triggers, you can use the strategies below to help your child navigate these experiences. Remember, the goal isn’t to avoid these situations, but to equip your child with the tools to face them with confidence.
2. Validate Their Feelings
Children need to feel that their emotions and experiences are heard and respected. Show empathy by listening attentively and acknowledging their feelings without amplifying their fears. For instance, you can say, “I understand this feels scary for you,” instead of dismissing their worries. A calm and supportive presence can help them feel more secure.
3. Encourage Realistic Thinking
Once your child has shared their worries, guide them toward more balanced and realistic thoughts. Avoid overly optimistic reassurances like “I’m sure you will do amazing on your test!”. Instead, help them prepare by discussing possible outcomes and creating a plan: “What would you do if you didn’t do as well as you hoped? Who could help you?” Problem-solving can empower them and reduce anxiety.
4. Use Healthy Coping Strategies
Introduce your child to tools that can help them manage anxiety, such as:
- Deep breathing exercises or short meditations. Studies have shown how effective the use of mindfulness can be in addressing children’s anxiety.
- Listening to calming music.
- Breaking tasks into smaller manageable steps.
- Reflect on progress, demystifying those excessive worries, and encouraging positive behavior.
Role-play can also be useful if your child is nervous about specific scenarios, such as a presentation or a social event. Practicing these situations together can help them feel prepared and more in control.
Additionally, establishing family routines, eating healthy, and engaging in daily physical activity are foundational habits for emotional well-being.
Taking proactive steps and seeking professional guidance can make a significant difference for both you and your child.
5. Seek Professional Help
If anxiety persists, consulting a professional therapist can provide tailored guidance and support. Therapy can help children develop coping strategies and address the causes of their anxiety. Medication is rarely necessary for treating anxiety in children, but a qualified healthcare provider should always be involved in determining the best course of action.
Take Care of Yourself
Parenting can be challenging, and it’s easy to feel overwhelmed. Don’t hesitate to reach out for support—whether from family, friends, or your community—because taking care of yourself is key for taking care of your child. Children are sensitive to adult stress, and their own anxiety can be fueled by yours.
